Mental patterns that underlie learning condition and action as individuals, that is, are the set of strategies or consciously or consciously anchors are housed in our subconscious, modifying or shaping the way we face a situation in life, leading to failure or success.
Change your thought patterns change makes your life (at least in the way you react to situations) 10% of life is related to what you get, the 90% of life is decided by the way as you usually react.
What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We can not stop our car broke down, the plane is late, we fired from a job, that someone leaves or excessively prudent motorist hinder us in the street and hundreds of other things.
We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% of what happens is different. You determine the other 90%. How? ... With your reactions. You can not control a red light, but you can control your reaction. Do not let people fool you. You can control how you react. [/ B]
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee and dirties your shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What happens next will be determined by your reaction.
You can get angry, curse, punishment, take a sermon on how to behave at the table, it is clumsy, and so on. The scold severely for knocking the cup over. She starts to mourn. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. And following a verbal battle. You storm salts moody and change your shirt. When you come back, find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and not ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive faster than allowed.
After leaving late and a traffic ticket for 100 .- €, you are late to school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. You get to the office 20 minutes late and you realize that you forgot your briefcase. Your day started terrible. And it seems to get worse and worse.
Look forward to coming home. When you get home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning.
Why did you have a bad day?
a) Did the coffee cause it? b) Did your daughter cause it? c) Did the policeman cause it? d) Are you the cause?
The answer is "d"
You had no control over what happened with the coffee. The way you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to mourn. You gently say, "OK honey, you just need to be more careful next time. After a new shirt to wear and take your briefcase, you come back down and look through the window and see your daughter taking the bus. She turns around and says good-bye.
Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.
You really have no control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% includes a cause of your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about you. Do not be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. Do not let negative comments affect you. React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in the loss of a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc..
How to react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? (A friend of mine had the steering wheel off) ¿Curse? Are you up the pressure? Who CARES if you arrive 10 seconds late for work? Why let traffic ruin your drive?
As these examples could have hundreds, every day things happen that we can not control and they do so unfortunate to react creating a reality that could have been avoided and very different.
But it takes a lot of energy to change our thought patterns,. If we have some tools to help us.
The laughter, fantasy, play, dance music and breathing, are a combination massifies to work and change our deepest thought patterns, to undo the most bitter anger, guilt dilute, dilute beliefs and prejudices.